Long time ago when I first read The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm I was so impressed with many things, but I will never forget the example with the flowers. If you like the flowers so much why killing them for your personal pleasure for a short period of time?
Since then I started making pictures of the flowers I like and leaving them to live their life.
That flower soon will open and will be as beautiful as you have eyes to see it. Just try.